11 Dec 2009


I feel like a fishwife. I seem to spend the whole day yelling at one or other child not to do something or for doing something (or for not listening!).

Last night as I was doing the blog jumping thing I came across a blog talking about yelling at children (as usual I can't find it again so I can't link it). Now obviously I knew that yelling is not exactly beneficial to the child, but I've always thought it less harmful than hitting on those days where the frustration levels just keep rocketing. However this blog really put into perspective that yelling alone is also very destructive. The sentence that remains with me and kept me up late last night was along the lines of ....the intent of yelling is to frighten and terrorize the child. Do I really want to be terrorising my precious girls? I think we all agree the answer is a resounding NO!

So I'm setting myself a challenge: 30 days without yelling at Ciara and Enya. Wish us all luck!


iamza said...

You can do it!

Cathy said...

Good luck!

I try not to actually yell too often. (I don't consider a sharp "hey, cut it out!" to be a yell.) But sometimes I do think it's necessary. Like, say, when one child is hurting the other? Or, say, someone is pulling someone else's feeding tube? Then I'll yell. Sure, it may frighten, it may terrorize, it may make them look at me with those big "you're mean!" eyes - but if they remember it and don't do it again, well worth it.

So, that said - I wish you luck in yelling less, but if you need to yell to stop something from happening, don't beat yourself up over it.

Nix said...

Hi Cathy,
unfortunately with the terrible two they don't seem to remember it and it doesn't stop them from doing what ever it was they were intent on doing.
The only thing it does is let me release a little frustration out vocally.